Sunday morning I woke up at 4am with an ominous pain I'd had before. I thought it was acute Gastrointeritis but it turned out to be a major gall bladder attack.I had just enough time to get dressed nicely (khakis, sport shirt, socks, loafers; don't ask, it's me) and hustle to the hospital before the inevitable happened - violent vomiting and acute stomach pain. I have to say, the emergency room personnel at our local hamlet hospital in the country are so sweet and accommodating. Of course they're not used to a 'take charge' guy like me ("screw the Morphine, it doesn't work. Just give me 2 injections of Diottin'"). Eventually when things were calming down I called Miss Hill ('guess who I slept with last night - and where?'). They dragged me in for a CatScan where I found out there was something wrong with the gallbladder. So back to SF today to get a referral and run over to the hospital and find out what Chapter 2 is going to be on this little saga. Next step: lining up the doctors. Christ. Always something.
I saw Bruce Vilanch roaming aorund Union Square last week. Seeing all of him - this time wearing yet another stained t-shirt - reminded me of a time he was supposed to stay at the hotel. This must have been around 2000. Anyways, I ordered a VIP gift, a custom cookie made to look like the Hollywood Squares checkerboard with a big heart in the center square. Underneath the checkerboard the script was to have read "You're our favorite secret square".
Instead it came out reading "You're our favorite secret squirrel".
Fortunately he cancelled at the last minute as he got nicer accommodations. Hopefully next to a dry cleaners.
What is it about Bruce that he can't dress decently? I know the guy is overweight but there are plenty of oveweight guys who can still wear something other than a t-shirt and jeans. And with Bruce's income, he has plenty of moolah to go to a tailor and get a couple of pants and shirts made. Truly, there is no excuse to looking like a slob 24/7.
Speaking of the Rrazz room (where Bruce played last week) Diane Schuur is opening on Wednesday the 20th for a four night gig. If you love jazz and standards, she is a must. If you haven't been to the Rrazz Room, do. It's dressy (coats for the guys, ties optional but preferred), classic and fun. And she puts on a great show.
Back to me pain pills.
KFOG's Dave Morey
Dave had the best rock radio format in the industry - cool, low key, understated along with that low, cool, understated smooth voice. No "in your face" or "shlock rock" shenanigans that plagues so many morning-drive stations. Instead, Dave and his team appealed to the smart person: they want their music, news and traffic in a calm, cool, and fun manner. Today Dave retired and listening to his last morning show was painful - but in the Dave manner, it was cool, too.
Dave was one of the few radio hosts who was out. As in Gay. And oh, so cool about it. He supported causes large and small in the community and unlike Fernando and Greg, competiting morning driver hosts at Energy 92.7, he didn't talk about his dates, fetishes or lusts. Nobody wants to hear that.
Fortunately Dave will still air his 10@10 segment - 10 great songs from a particular year - one of my absolute favorites. I'll miss his silky voice in the morning as another piece of San Franciscana leaves forever.
Before the avent of jet travel, people traveled by train and boat. Going through one of my Grandmother's albums I found pictures from train trips to New York (on the Super Chief, the fastest train at the time) and cruises from New York to LeHavre or Southampton aboard Cunard liners. All with detailed pictures and descriptions of accommodations and meals.
The privileged few had private railway cars. Recently I was looking for something to read when I came across an article from today's "New York Social Diary" (www.newyorksocialdiary.com) on private railway cars that are available for charter. The most opulent private railway car was one created by two gay gentlemen, Lucius Beebe and his partner Charles Clegg. Decorated to the nines, these boys had style, fun and a penchant for comfort. Their railway car is now in the California Railway Museum in Sacramento.
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We started early at McLaren Lodge in Golden Gate Park - I arrived at 7:15am - in time to enjoy coffee, hugs, getting our bikes ready and dishing the dirt. We then had a small ceremony - remembering those who we've lost and instilling love to those in the circle - and then we took off. As we rode across the bridge I saw a woman on the east side of the span just about to jump off. (She tied a step stool to the railing). My heart lept and due to traffic I couldn't cross six lanes. In the nick of time, two Bridge Patrol officers showed up and took her off to a safe place. The conditions on the bridge were terribly windy and as I chugged my way to the Marin side all I could think about was what was going through her head. Thwarted plans, dashed hopes, the whole nine yards. It was extremely sad.
Fortunately the good weather, the ride down the Sausalito hill and the sunny expanse that greeted us in Mill Valley changed my mood. While it was a very short ride in my book (28 miles) it was such a treat to ride with all these people who are truly the nicest guys in the world.
In the meantime, for those who got married whether your marriages are validated or not, your commitments to each other haven't changed and that's what's important. Still, partners need to protect each other and this is what you need to do.
1. Even if you got married, be sure to be domestic partners also. Whether the marriages performed are valid or not, domestic partners still get many advantages, most importantly no stepped up basis on property taxes should one partner die. This is the same right offered to married couples who own property together. So if you got married but didn't register as Domestic Partners, do that immediately.
2. Next, make sure you have a durable Healthcare Power of Attorney for each other. This document states that your partner can make your medical decisions for you in case you are incapacitated and unable to communicate your wishes. The document also allows you to write out these wishes such as no resusitation, no heroics, etc. Whether you are domestic partners or not, this is essential.
3. If you and your partner own property together then you need to each establish your own trusts. A trust avoids probate court when you die and allows you to will your assets to anybody you wish to as is written in your will which is part of the trust. See a qualified trust attorney. Even if you don't own real estate but have bank accounts or an automobile that you own outright, you need to have a trust. The last thing you want to do is die and have everything go to probate court. Trust me, it's a fucking mess. So if you're leaving everything to your partner in a trust, you can do that. You can also put a challenge clause in the trust document that states if your trust is challenged by one of the beneficiaries that they automatically will lose what was left to them. Again, you don't need to be domestic partners to do this.
How to find the right attorney for you? Check your local Bar association for a listing of Estate Planning attorneys. Or check with your pals. Or check your local Gay business organization. Just make sure they are licensed in the state where they practice and are a member of state Bar association.
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The Mormon Church and its members were some of the largest donors in the Prop 8 measure. As many of your know, Mormon church members are required to tithe a portion of their income to the Church.
Universely, we need to avoid putting any more money into the Church's coffers by boycotting all companies where a Mormon church member holds an officer's position or a large majority interest. This includes:
ALBERTSONS GROCERY STORES
HOUSE OF FABRICS
NATIONWIDE INSURANCE INCLUDING ITS AFFILIATES SUCH AS ALLIED.
CORNERSTONE REALTY INCOME TRUST
KNIGHT TRANSPORTATION (TRUCKING)
PLUS all those companies that are directly owned by the MORMON CHURCH outside of Utah, many of which are FOR PROFIT.
Join the effort and put your dollars into non-Mormon companies that deserve your support!
Commenting on the news that Madonna is divorcing her husband Guy Ritchie.
"Liz Rosenberg" (Madonna's publicist) "should marry Madonna", I stated. "Liz is this big dyke with the most boring, vacuous girlfriend you ever met. That is if she still has the girlfriend. Why doesn't she just call up Bekins and move in with Madonna? It's the logest relationship either of them have ever had."